Why I Do This Work

I know what it’s like to sit with this privately. To be the guy who has his life together on the outside and is losing a quiet battle on the inside. I’ve been there. I used the filters. I made promises that I would ultimately break. I know what it costs — in your marriage, in how you see yourself, in the gap between the man you are and the man you intended to be.

I also know there’s a way out. Not because I read about it, but because I lived it.

Who I Am

I’ve been married for over 20 years. I’m raising a large family. I’ve worked in trades, in tech, and spent years studying why men get stuck and what actually helps them move. I hold a Master’s in Addiction Studies and am trained in the evidence-based approaches that show up consistently in the research on lasting behavior change.

I’m not a therapist. I’m a coach. That distinction matters — this isn’t about processing the past or diagnosing what’s wrong with you. It’s about building the skills to act differently, starting now.

How I Think About This

PMO isn’t a willpower problem. It’s a learned response to discomfort — stress, boredom, loneliness, disconnection. Most approaches try to eliminate urges or force resistance. That works until life gets hard, which is exactly when it needs to work most.

What I teach is simpler and more durable: how to pause when an urge hits, slow things down, and choose based on what you actually value — not what your nervous system is demanding in that moment. Urges don’t disappear. But they stop running the show.

That’s a skill. It’s learnable. And it gets better with practice.

What Working With Me Looks Like

work one-on-one. I’m direct, but not harsh. I’ll point out what I see, ask the questions worth asking, and help you find where choice is actually available to you. That’s where the work happens.

If you want steady, honest support from someone who has been where you are and knows the way out, we should talk.